Grief is such a paradox
I think I’m hungry but have no desire to eat
I’m exhausted but cannot sleep
I want to be distracted but can’t focus on anything
I am here
You are not
I walk through the house
And you’re not in the places you should be
Not on the couch
Not on one of your beds
Not barking at the landscapers
Or the animals next door
Not barking for me to refresh your water bowl
Or to go outside and do your business
Or to lay in the sun for just a few minutes
Because I’m not out there with you
Even when you were doing nothing
You were still here
I could feel your spirit
Sometimes hear you snoring lightly
Or wriggling around on your back
Dancing with your feet in the air
Or just staring at me while I walked by
Now, your collar is empty.
Today I rode my bike
Without you
In the places we used to walk together
How can something that’s missing
Feel so unbelievably heavy
Eventually the pain will lessen
And the more recent memories
That were difficult
Will be replaced by all the good ones
Sometimes I think thinking of you is too hard
But if I don’t think of you
I’m afraid I will lose the memories
One pixel at a time
And I don’t want to lose even one pixel
I am fine one minute
And then burst into tears the next
It hurts so much
Because I am here.
And you are not.
But in the end
I hope this is easier for you
Than it is for me.